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Do you feel like your youth is coming to an end by the minute? Do you not want to be the 35 year old still shaking it in the club? Are you on the chase for the ring? This seems to be the case with a lot of young women today.

Ladies, if you model yourselves after your favorite celebrity or reality star’s marriage, something that seems unobtainable to the everyday person, instead of focusing on a healthy marriage, you’re only making it worse for yourself.

A lot of women put up with BS in relationships because they’re afraid that they won’t find love again. Young women even go as far as dealing with bad habits from men to keep them by their side.

It is important to think of yourself and your feelings the next time that you take the initiative to want to ‘please’ your man. If your goal is to be married by the age of 30, and have a family by the age of 34 make sure that you are being realistic with yourself.

Just because all of your friends from high school are married or having babies every time you blink this doesn’t meant to pressure yourself into staying in a relationship based solely on time limits you’ve set.

Don’t fall into the group of women that say “I don’t love him, but he’s safe.”
Just because you feel secure knowing that you have a man, unfortunately your mind is pieced together the wrong way, blocking what matters most. And that my friends, is the main issue at hand that young women make in relationships.

Happiness cannot be found in the arms of a man, no matter how much you want it to; happiness begins with self, no matter your relationship status.

-Europe Angelique

  • jeff

    The most common source of problems in relationships is that the couple misinterpreted their mutual feelings of attraction as love. This normally results in the couple trying to keep up appearances after the attraction fades, and wondering where the love went.

    It is important to know that attraction is an emotional feeling that fades over time, while love is a promise that has nothing to do with attraction. Love is a
    promise to do 4 things. For the man:

    1. To accept everything that he knows and does not know about her now.

    2. To accept her regardless of what happens in the unknown future as they both age – for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness or health for as long as they shall live. Even if she is later disfigured by an accident or crippled by illness, he promises now to accept her.

    3. To forgive her later. Since neither of them is perfect, they depend on each others’ forgiveness.

    4. To encourage her to improve. This 4th one gives purpose to their relationship – otherwise it will get boring.

    If they are both ready to make and keep these promises to each-other, then they are ready to love. When they keep them, they demonstrate their love for each-other. After they formally make their promises at their wedding, they complete or consummate their promises with sexual intercourse. Every time that they subsequently have sexual intercourse, they reinforce their promises – it is truly a wonderful and mutually satisfying experience.

    The problem is that if they have sexual intercourse before making their promises, then he shows her that he is capable of justifying forsaking her for a younger and shapelier rival when she get older. If he is able to restrain himself when his attraction for her is at its highest, then he shows her that he is capable of resisting the rival that will inevitably come.

    Source: Attraction is a feeling. Love is a Promise. by Grenville Phillips, president of Walbrent College. (Loveisapromise.wordpress.com)