Most relationships don't end with a blowup. They fade through small habits that feel harmless, like scrolling side by side on the couch, skipping the thank you, putting your partner last and assuming you already know what they think. Relationship researcher John Gottman found that newlywed couples who were still married six years later had…
For many couples, the advice sounds perfectly reasonable: put intimacy on the calendar, protect the time, and show up. But for a growing number of people, especially mothers navigating exhaustion and mental load, that well-meaning tip is doing real damage and one sex therapist has the personal receipts to prove it.
The problem with treating…

